New Mods, Have you found any of *your* threads in here yet?

[NUance]

I did. LINK

I have no recollection of what I wrote. But apparently it was about Dan Beebe. Not sure how it got resolved, but it looks like the offensive text is no longer there.

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Going forward, here's my two cents worth. When a poster comes along who dances right on the edge of breaking the rules but doesn't quite step over the line (like I must have done), it might be best simply to point out that it's inappropriate and ask that person to remove it. Or perhaps redact the post without giving out any warning, and discuss it with the poster via PMs.

Edit: After reading the posts below I think it would be best, and most efficient, to simply redact the offending portion of the post, check the edit box, and leave a comment. Something like, "salty text removed."

 

[Mavric]

I agree that best practice is to send them a PM with what is happening/needs to happen. If it's more than one person bordering on personal attacks, I'll sometimes just post a general warning in the thread.

I definitely think PMing a member with the reasons why a post was deleted or moved is a good idea.

 

[Eric the Red]

I did. LINK

I have no recollection of what I wrote. But apparently it was about Dan Beebe. Not sure how it got resolved, but it looks like the offensive text is no longer there.

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Going forward, here's my two cents worth. When a poster comes along who dances right on the edge of breaking the rules but doesn't quite step over the line (like I must have done), it might be best simply to point out that it's inappropriate and ask that person to remove it. Or perhaps redact the post without giving out any warning, and discuss it with the poster via PMs.

Great thread to post and discuss with us being new together NUance. Anyone feel free to jump in with their opinion. I'll give you my thoughts.

Everyone has their own way of doing things. No two mods (that includes me, admins would on the technical end as well. What Frank said is 100% true, he spends most of the time fixing what I break.) are alike in how they handle things. Zoogs is very diplomatic, BRI is straightforward, I think less is more, Knapplc is very detailed, etc. Sure there are boundaries, we don't curse at people, slam them in public, we don't say things that 99% of the time we would not be willing to say to them face to face.

I rarely give warnings, I rarely ban people, but I do like to have public discussion about what's appropriate and what's not. I don't like taking it to PM and have a more than a few replies back and forth because that's where the internet alter ego likes to come out. No matter what you tell people they'll just keep going and going.

I got a speeding ticket one time. When to stop class. At this class there were a few people who were still trying to claim their innocents months after they received the $55 ticket. Some people will keep going and going.

Does this mean we ignore? No...not at all. But if you say your peace, I would use clear language, be brief, and fairly final. I like doing this in public as much as I can because many, many others will see that you are polite, sincere, care about keeping the board as cordial as possible, and aren't going to let garbage take place. That will have a lasting effect. Much more powerful than have a discussion in private that only one other person will see. Most people want to comply, they are not here to be a rebel. When you post the reason for deleting in public you are now showing/telling hundreds of people what's best practice versus just one.

Another reason I like to discuss in public is because people will gravitate toward you. If they ever have an issue or a comment, because of how they have seen you handle yourself, they are likely to reach out. This interaction could really help us or reduce the chances of something being blown up, taken out of context, blah, blah, etc. I manage (I guess you would say) a few other teachers I work with in a classroom for students with behavior disorders or emotional disturbance. These students are verbally and physically aggressive. I tell the other teachers if every student feels comfortable going to just one of us to confide with something, we have done our job.

One thing to be careful about is conducting too much "business" inside PM because of the time commitment that may follow. I will bring up a situation Knapplc discussed a few months ago. I really don't know what he thought/thinks about it but, he mentioned he was really trying to help everyone and discuss so much (I believe him 100% this was the intention) with everyone in PM when he would get on to Hboard and see 10 PM's waiting for him. He would spend a great deal of time responding. Hboard turned into a job for him. It should never be a job. It you feel like it has, please take a break. Tell me or us your not going to be around for 'x' amount of time or not and take a break. This should always be fun. Talking Huskers should always be the priority. It's always mine. This is what brought you here, it's what's going to keep you here. Again, just my POV.

 

[zoogs]

Going forward, here's my two cents worth. When a poster comes along who dances right on the edge of breaking the rules but doesn't quite step over the line (like I must have done), it might be best simply to point out that it's inappropriate and ask that person to remove it. Or perhaps redact the post without giving out any warning, and discuss it with the poster via PMs.

Yep, I agree here. I like warnings because they are the easiest way to keep track of history, but only serious offenses should constitute a warning. Oftentimes I will PM reminders only. It is best practice to PM whenever you remove someone's post, status, etc -- don't leave them wondering. We all forget sometimes, but be ready to acknowledge fault if it happens

A public rebuke can be taken much more harshly than a PM warning, if they single out a poster. Sometimes that's necessary.

It's important to remember that a Mod, you have powers

. Members have none, except their words. So while members may get angry and hurl abuse at us, there is no need to return in kind. As we can ban or delete at our discretion, it is crucial that we don't get personal and make someone feel like we're holding the hammer over their heads. That brings the worst out in anybody. We set the standard for this board every time we post or PM. There's an applicable Spiderman quote here.

Though, try to not get bogged down in PMs if you can. In fact, feel free to add the rest of the Mods team to a PM so we can help out and give the guy more people to vent at.

 

[Saunders]

I did. LINK

I have no recollection of what I wrote. But apparently it was about Dan Beebe. Not sure how it got resolved, but it looks like the offensive text is no longer there.

=========================================

Going forward, here's my two cents worth. When a poster comes along who dances right on the edge of breaking the rules but doesn't quite step over the line (like I must have done), it might be best simply to point out that it's inappropriate and ask that person to remove it. Or perhaps redact the post without giving out any warning, and discuss it with the poster via PMs.

I've had... one or two. It was because of some sparring I had done with a certain member or two. After seeing what happened at BigRedReport/Scout, where a few posters drove everyone else off because the mods left or did nothing, and I was afraid of that happening here. The thing is, it wasn't my responsibility. After reading over those threads and a few others, I see how much work goes on behind the scenes to making this place fun for all. It was an eye opener, and I apologized to a couple folks.

I've been apart of a few different husker communities (plus other communities as well) and this is by far the best. People are allowed to speak, but we still push the Bill and Ted "Be Excellent To Each Other" mantra. It's a big part of the reason why I applied to help out.

 

[Eric the Red]

Great responses....these are all recommendations. Read through them, take what you want and throw away the rest. Make it yours. Bring your new, fresh experiences and help us. This is a good start.

 

[It'sNotAFakeID]

Going forward, here's my two cents worth. When a poster comes along who dances right on the edge of breaking the rules but doesn't quite step over the line (like I must have done), it might be best simply to point out that it's inappropriate and ask that person to remove it. Or perhaps redact the post without giving out any warning, and discuss it with the poster via PMs.

Yep, I agree here. I like warnings because they are the easiest way to keep track of history, but only serious offenses should constitute a warning. Oftentimes I will PM reminders only. It is best practice to PM whenever you remove someone's post, status, etc -- don't leave them wondering. We all forget sometimes, but be ready to acknowledge fault if it happens

A public rebuke can be taken much more harshly than a PM warning, if they single out a poster. Sometimes that's necessary.

It's important to remember that a Mod, you have powers

. Members have none, except their words. So while members may get angry and hurl abuse at us, there is no need to return in kind. As we can ban or delete at our discretion, it is crucial that we don't get personal and make someone feel like we're holding the hammer over their heads. That brings the worst out in anybody. We set the standard for this board every time we post or PM. There's an applicable Spiderman quote here.

Though, try to not get bogged down in PMs if you can. In fact, feel free to add the rest of the Mods team to a PM so we can help out and give the guy more people to vent at.

This is pretty much my perspective as well.