Which is really the point I want to drive home: the power of the situation. To use your analogy, let's say I avoid eye contact when I'm in a situation that makes me nervous/uncomfortable, but make eye contact in the absence of those situations. You wouldn't say I have Asperger's because that lack of eye contact needs to be present across situations, and that, my friend, is a pretty sweeping analogy. You're essentially saying that everything committed by white people against black people is done on the basis of race and race alone, which I think is pretty short-sighted. Might there be bad eggs in the police department who abuse their power? Without a doubt. Heck, there are even whole towns who subtlety discriminate and disadvantage black people. But to say that this is the case whenever a black person meets an unfortunate situation completely disregards any situational component necessary in understanding human behavior.
I'm growing sick of us trying to solve problems that aren't there. Racism is a problem and rears its ugly head on a daily basis. But not every scenario includes a racial component, even if it involves people of two different ethnicities. We will never solve a problem until we fully understand said problem, and crying racism whenever something bad happens with two people of different ethnicities only blocks of from fully comprehending the racism problem in America.
Where the analogy falls short is in trying to document and show how racism as a power can permeate and exist above individual situations where people might not actually be "acting racist".
What I am not saying is that everything committed by white people against black people is done on the basis of race.
What I am, in fact, saying, is that every black person has experienced things committed against them by white people on the basis of race, and even if they haven't explicitly they still live in a society that affects them adversely in some way(s) because of their race. This has been statistically proven every which way you could possibly hope for, and too many people (not saying you are one of them) are still somehow denying that it's true.
My point is...even if this situation isn't heavily hinged on anything to do with race, it's disturbing and not helpful that so many people are immediately trying to go to actual conscious effort to declare that race doesn't have anything to do with it. Is that true? It could be. But if race doesn't have anything to do with it, it's not a problem. If race DOES have something to do with it, which is very likely, racial tension and inequality is a big problem so I don't see why we would not want to err on the side of perception that gives the benefit of the doubt to people being wronged in a bullsh#t way.