I am under the weather, cranky, irritated at watching the Huskers look like they should carve “Rinse and Repeat” into the stone to memorialize their underwhelming program’s longer than recent history, and then seeing Colorado (with Coach $&@! Time). As if there was not enough reasons to hate Colorado, at least they had been dormant.
I really don’t care if my post might be repetitive because frankly I am too tired and lazy to read 40 pages on this thread. For everything holy, keep this close and punch them in the mouth…at the very least. Please! We don’t ask for much these days!!!
You sound beat down and dejected.
I'd like to present an analogy. Suppose that there
is an inscription on a stone. Or, even blemishes on a quality piece of lumber. Those impressions aren't easily removed. They're embedded distortions representing limited potential. It's going to require some diligence clear those away. Similarly, the structure of soil can be enhanced over time, over seasons. Would it be absurd to suggest that that's comparable to our situation?
The challenge is that there's a variety of contributing factors that have been limiting our success, causes. We are charged with remedying each of them.
Suppose that I am talking to one of your loved ones. You don't want me feeding them anything that isn't in their interest and, if you do your're going to be mighty upset with me. You have every right to come after me as you should if I were to. They're backs are up against the wall and their days are filled with challenges. You don't need some s#!thead coming along bringing any more pain to their doorstep.
It occurred to me once while sharpening a blade that how I leaned into the stone determined how well it was honed. The optimum angle and pressure. If you've done sharpening yourself you completely understand what I'm getting at. Would you object to me telling someone dear to you to lean into what they're confronted? It could even be criticism that they're facing. I'd ask them to be patient with themselves. To tune out anyone that doesn't have anything that doesn't have anything to contribute to them succeeding, to seek reliable answers and, make the most rational choices possible.
As for your team, why do we have to endure rinsing and rinsing only to get the same type of results! It isn't particularly convincing or reassuring when we see some of the very same things again and again. It's exhausting.
Playing a weaker or dormant team and winning would certainly give our confidence a boost though would it make improve our abilities and competitiveness as a team? That's a false sense of hope. There's limited opportunity for growth. It takes both skillful sharpening
and exceptional metal and, diligence. An ironsmith can only work with the metals he's got therefore a cutler must acquire it, apply his workmanship to deliver true craftsmanship. All the metal and prior work left a legacy. The product is fashioned over time.
It's important, critical really that the messages that we are telling ourselves do not work in opposition to what our aims are. What are essentially lies. When you or I flub up, does it do us any good to beat up on ourselves and each other? That just etches another dastardly misrepresentation of what we want to achieve. And, we lie to ourselves saying that nothing can be done. There is no hope. Just give in to it all. Feelings are real though oftentimes not true and they can be villainous thieves.
It's frustrating. It's like offering a sword to someone to obliterate their enemies only have them strike at rock blunting it, even snapping the thing into two and then more misery ensuing.
Many others feel likewise! You're not alone. Let's lean in to that adversity though, let acceptance be our ally. With heavy lifting, the results we are desirous will come. Really we have to bust stone apart, grind away and combine it with organic matter. Are there any inscriptions left? Essentially were there any to begin with! Eventually it yields the wins we want as a consequence.
You/re a winner friend whether you know it yet or not. That is what we're up against. There's always a choice. To inhibit or facilitate growth and, how well we negotiate through the blind spots in our field of vision will determine the outcomes we want.