Ha, no idea. Why would a recruit add you?
I don't think it matters which way the contact was made. For example, if a recruit meets a booster at an event and then starts trading emails and texts, it doesn't matter who initiates. Shrug!
I made a comment on a Facebook group and next thing I know he friend requested me. We never once spoke about him playing at Nebraska or recruitment at other schools.
Honestly, I don't know what to say. That sounds completely fine to me. The rules are there for a good reason, but they were also made before things like Facebook, which completely changed the way people communicate. I don't know how the NCAA could possibly regulate all of this stuff, but it's not really my call to make. Long-set rules often have trouble adapting to changing landscapes - but until it changes, gets eased up or becomes more well defined, that message from the compliance staff is all we've got to work with.
T, there are two completely different issues here. Backlash against people stalking on current players (has that even been a huge issue?) is completely different from teetering on the line of recruiting violations. I'd love it if it weren't the case, but it is what it is.