Not every situation is the same. My wifes parents arent the greatest with money. Her dads a lawyer and her moms high maintenance. They dont know how to save money or pay debt. They told my wife they would pay for her undergraduate college at Colorado. They paid the least anount possible and interest accrued. She wanted to change careers so she went back to college for masters in school counseling. Got denied from UNO (cheaper) got accepted to Creighton (more expensive). She got tons of scholarships to help with masters but still owed $20,000.
Long story short, she started having medical issues the past few years, just went to Mayo Clinic this past week. Weve hit out of pocket maximum three years in a row. $5000 on top of premiums just for her medical issues. Plus, her dad lost his job during pandemic so they cant pay her loans anymore and since they are in her name, the debt goes to her. Her undergraduate and graduate adds up to $54,000 so $34,000 which was promised to be paid her by her parents goes to us. I also decided to go back to school to get MBA in healthcare. If I would have known she had that much undergraduate debt and her parents woukd back out of their deal, I would have waited. So now we have medical debt (no faukt of her own), her college debt (not her fault that her parents made bad decisions on her behalf and now cant pay their portion) and my college debt, which I was on pace to get undergraduate paid off in 6 years before going back, so I have been responsible paying back my debt and havent let interest accrue. We had to move in with my parents when she started having medical issues because the debt was too much and we were drowning in it and because her program required her to do a FT non-paid intership, so her income for that year was limited as her other FT job paid crud. We are trying our best, but the medical debt and college debt now will not allow us to start a family or move out for awhile.
Not every situation is the same and thats my anecdotal reality check on life not being a black and white issue.