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Sam Spade

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But I need to vent.

I just got dumped through a text message because we "weren't at the same place in our lives.". I liked this one too... Hopefully it's just some pms coupled with the stress of her aunt dying and her work stressing her out lately.

 
I can't tell you how many girls have used that excuse on not only myself, but my buddies as well. I don't know how old you are but I'm 23 so girls around my age are the biggest air heads in the world and change their mind on a dime. I was "dating" more like just hooking up with this girl for a solid 3 months after she broke up with her boyfriend on 1 year. One day out of the blue I get a text like that, the very next day I find out they are dating again. Lets just say the next time that girl decided it would be a good idea to text me to see if I wanted to hangout again I let her know exactly how I felt about what happened.

Havn't heard from her since, and don't care to either.

 
Again, texting - bad, personal contact good.

If someone breaks up, have the gonads (females have them, right?) to do it face to face.

 
She's not taking other visits. I'm seriously just wondering if all this outside stress is just drowning her, who knows. I'll give her a few days to chill (and finish bleeding) and if she's still at it I'll just move on.

 
Sorry to hear that. If it's any consolation, for every girlfriend I broke up with, I always landed a better gf the next time around.

You might try acting like like the break-up is no big deal or anything. If she thinks it doesn't bother you she'll eventually come back. Then, even if you don't want to take her back, you can at least enjoy the make-up sex for a few days before *you* dump her for good.

 
NUance said:
Sorry to hear that. If it's any consolation, for every girlfriend I broke up with, I always landed a better gf the next time around.

You might try acting like like the break-up is no big deal or anything. If she thinks it doesn't bother you she'll eventually come back. Then, even if you don't want to take her back, you can at least enjoy the make-up sex for a few days before *you* dump her for good.
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Thanks... How long should I just act like its nothing?

On the plus side, her friends kid was having a bday party the night of the Wisconsin game. Don't have that problem anymore..

 
That sucks Sam, I hope it works out for you and if it doesn't I'm sure you'll find someone better than a person who would dump a guy via text message.

 
Bucky said:
That sucks Sam, I hope it works out for you and if it doesn't I'm sure you'll find someone better than a person who would dump a guy via text message.
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Heard that! If she wasn't going through all this other stuff I would have already kicked rocks... But I'm just worried she's overwhelmed and over thinking things.

I also feel like an idiot talking about this to strangers... But f#*k it.

 
Sam Spade said:
Bucky said:
That sucks Sam, I hope it works out for you and if it doesn't I'm sure you'll find someone better than a person who would dump a guy via text message.
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Heard that! If she wasn't going through all this other stuff I would have already kicked rocks... But I'm just worried she's overwhelmed and over thinking things.

I also feel like an idiot talking about this to strangers... But f#*k it.
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No worries, you're not an idiot for venting. We're all strangers here and we all vent and share. I've been where you are now, it's the pits but it can help to get it out there and anonymity can make that easier.

Is she talking at all to you? I can understand the worry but with what she's got going on maybe it will pass.

 
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