Just normal American Utopia...

teachercd said:
I NEVER thought of it like that but that is super culty.  It is like cult 101, to separate the person from friends and family. 
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What if you find out that friend has an entirely different set of morals that you thought they did?  What if you now don't see them as a kind and decent person?

Would you honestly have the same level of trust and friendship with them as you did before?

I haven't unfriended people because they  "voted for Trump".   But I did unfriend people because they cheered that those evil Muslims aren't going to be allowed into the country.  I did unfriend people because they said homosexuals are going to burn in hell and watched as they disowned their own children.  I no longer talk to them, not because they side with a politician, but because they showed me what kind of people they truly are when they tried to defend why they voted for said politician. 

 
Cutting people out of your life who hurt you or who do bad things is perfectly healthy. People who remain in toxic relationships hurt themselves.

If your family voted for the felon and you don't want to hang out with them, that's perfectly normal and healthy. Don't let anyone guilt you into it.

 
funhusker said:
What if you find out that friend has an entirely different set of morals that you thought they did?  What if you now don't see them as a kind and decent person?

Would you honestly have the same level of trust and friendship with them as you did before?

I haven't unfriended people because they  "voted for Trump".   But I did unfriend people because they cheered that those evil Muslims aren't going to be allowed into the country.  I did unfriend people because they said homosexuals are going to burn in hell and watched as they disowned their own children.  I no longer talk to them, not because they side with a politician, but because they showed me what kind of people they truly are when they tried to defend why they voted for said politician. 
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I have a wide range here. 
 

First, if I cut everyone off that voted for Trump anytime in the last three elections, I’d be living as a hermit with no social life. 
 

I have a customer that I have known for well over 30 years. He’s so f#&%ing Trump nuts that he has a special truck that he’s decked out in Trump maga crap that takes through parades in 4 or 5 states. He sent me a picture of him with Trump. The Trump campaign called him to get him to bring his truck to the inauguration. I can still joke with him and have a beer. He brought his truck to town a couple weeks ago and begged me to stand there and get my picture with it. I refused and we just laughed about it. 
 

I Then, have a friend who is extreme maga with Trump flags everywhere and constantly posting on line about it. He was constantly sending me text messages about the most radical Trump crap. When we are together, he constantly has to get his Trump digs in and turn the conversation to that, thinking he’s demeaning me in a group. I have very little to do with him anymore. I’m just not going to put up with it. If he was in my family and inviting me over for thanksgiving, I would probably go. But, I would understand if someone just said….no thanks. 

 
funhusker said:
What if you find out that friend has an entirely different set of morals that you thought they did?  What if you now don't see them as a kind and decent person?

Would you honestly have the same level of trust and friendship with them as you did before?

I haven't unfriended people because they  "voted for Trump".   But I did unfriend people because they cheered that those evil Muslims aren't going to be allowed into the country.  I did unfriend people because they said homosexuals are going to burn in hell and watched as they disowned their own children.  I no longer talk to them, not because they side with a politician, but because they showed me what kind of people they truly are when they tried to defend why they voted for said politician. 
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Honestly it sounds like you were not actually friends with those people at all, it sounds like you didn't know anything about them.  So, yeah, that is fine.

As far as unfriending people on social media?  That seems pretty normal if they are clogging up your timeline or views or whatever it is.

 
BigRedBuster said:
I have a wide range here. 
 

First, if I cut everyone off that voted for Trump anytime in the last three elections, I’d be living as a hermit with no social life. 
 

I have a customer that I have known for well over 30 years. He’s so f#&%ing Trump nuts that he has a special truck that he’s decked out in Trump maga crap that takes through parades in 4 or 5 states. He sent me a picture of him with Trump. The Trump campaign called him to get him to bring his truck to the inauguration. I can still joke with him and have a beer. He brought his truck to town a couple weeks ago and begged me to stand there and get my picture with it. I refused and we just laughed about it. 
 

I Then, have a friend who is extreme maga with Trump flags everywhere and constantly posting on line about it. He was constantly sending me text messages about the most radical Trump crap. When we are together, he constantly has to get his Trump digs in and turn the conversation to that, thinking he’s demeaning me in a group. I have very little to do with him anymore. I’m just not going to put up with it. If he was in my family and inviting me over for thanksgiving, I would probably go. But, I would understand if someone just said….no thanks. 
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This is all normal, this is how normal people behave.  

 
Somewhere between, "I'm cutting you out of my life because you support Hitler and are happy about the holocaust" and, "I'm cutting you out of my life because I like Nebraska and you like Iowa", there is a threshold between being reasonable or not. Where's the line? Well, like most things it depends on circumstance and context, but don't let any posturing from anyone else convince you that you shouldn't respect the boundaries that your intuition is telling you that you need. 

 
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